Visions: The Love That Endures

For those men who think a woman needs to have sex to be in a fulfilling relationship, I would like you to profoundly get what I am about to say. We all have times when ego guides our choices. When we recognize that where we are coming from in our choices is ego and not unconditional love, we can then choose to stand in unconditional love. I once loved a man so dearly. He was my best friend for over twenty years. He was strong in his youth and very pleasing to the eyes. As the years came on us both, naturally change began to reshape the two of us, as well as how we looked at each other. And each time I looked at him, I still smiled to know within my heart that I loved him so. There were times that tested our love and we endured those times as the love continued. Then the unthinkable happened. He became ill and was no longer the physically strong man I once knew. To the astonishing surprise of all, he contracted leukemia at forty-seven. It all happened quickly. No warning.

Now he was no longer physically strong, but a new strength was taking form, and it was more spiritual than I ever had known him to be in his life. I still saw someone I loved when I looked into his eyes. It wasn't about what he wasn't anymore, but what he was who kept the love alive. We discovered how to share love in many ways other than sex. That's when I knew I could love someone unconditionally and that sex didn't necessarily need to be a factor in the intimacy and love we shared.

If I could get one point across profoundly it would be to say to every man who can not have sex, for whatever reason, it doesn't make you less of a man in your woman's eyes. She isn't seeing what isn't there; she is loving what is there. The world is jam packed with women who love their man even when the act of sex is no longer a possibility. They just don't go around shouting it to everyone. It's a personal thing. Trust that your woman can stand in unconditional love for you and not ego. Trust that when she looks at you she is still seeing the man she first came to love. And above all else, trust in God for the guidance to higher levels of love, with or without sex, because that's where new experiences are to be found. While we might not have the sex (the act), intimacy (the conversation) and love (the emotion) can provide an enduring relationship for those who are in the state of unconditional love.