Saturday morning we were having a discussion about “blessings and curses”. We each took turns defining what we thought a blessing was and one man admitted having questioned blessings. He could see how God blesses us but wasn’t clear how we bless God. I offered that one way of looking at it could be in choosing to do what is right we can shine for God and become a blessing to Him. As we continued discussing blessings a new member of our group presented us with the example of how one woman was barren for years, then God “blessed” her with fifteen children. She suggested that the woman might not have thought it a “blessing” but rather a “curse”. So there it was once more – it’s all about perspective, and how we balance our perspective.
Now, I’m reminded that I’m here to get to know who I truly am for others and myself. So I found that my perspective of myself was changing even though who I was wasn’t. Instead of looking at myself and right away concentrating on certain components and seeing a curse, I could choose to shift my perception. Now, this doesn’t mean that I ignore those issues that could be curses – but choose to look at them a different way and not focus on the negative aspects of them – they could very well all be blessings in disguise! For instance, I could see not having a special man to share life with as a curse, but here’s the other side of the coin. What if it’s a blessing? What if he isn’t ready just yet for me? What if our being together prematurely would totally destroy the possibilities we could have for creating a life together? What I’m saying is – that maybe it is a blessing. Maybe if I were in a relationship before I was ready, the timing could be wrong and it wouldn’t bring us towards our higher good or support who we want to be for the other. Here’s another one. My being unemployed gave me the opportunity to get by with a little help from my friends and the time to create a web site and finish my first book – Visions, and start my second book “Oy, ” which were spiritual for me. I even began a third book as well, a romance novel, and the start of a fourth, science fiction. It also gave me the opportunity to experience being unemployed first hand and walk a mile in the shoes of some who want to work and find themselves stopped by life. It taught me compassion for them as well. I couldn’t see it before because I was caught up in the circumstance, but now that I am out of it, my vision is clear once more!